Why Pointing Out Sexism In Blog Comments Threads Is Important

In “The Down Side of Slashdot” Annalee Newitz writes at Alternet:

…any tech or science writer whose stuff goes on the Web (including yours truly) is at least a little bit invested in the idea of getting Slashdotted once in a while. It’s sort of like being included in the Readings section of Harper’s Magazine — you automatically get a wider audience, and also the implicit approval of a venerable media institution.

Except if you’re a woman. A few months ago, an article of mine was Slashdotted. But instead of resulting in a lively debate about technology and social justice, it instead produced a popular thread in the “comments” area about whether I was too fat to be considered attractive. At that point, I vowed to stop reading Slashdot. What the fuck? Why should I give a shit about those morons? I would read other geek culture blogs like BoingBoing, where the male editors are feminists and Xeni Jardin knows why it sucks that some creeps care more about her ass than the political op-ed she just wrote for the Los Angeles Times.

But, like I said, Slashdot is like the New York Times. No matter how infuriating and stupid its editorial policies, the site still breaks interesting news that everybody talks about. So I started peeking at my Slashdot feed again once in a while, then visiting the site, then actually poring over it daily as I used to do. Until my most recent Slashdotting, in which a guy linked to one of my more satirical columns and described me as a “gorgeous nerd” rather than a journalist or writer or columnist or even just plain “nerd.”

You can imagine the comment threads that followed. Was I really gorgeous, or was I ugly? Wasn’t it OK to evaluate my looks because my column wasn’t really “professional,” but rather “humorous”? (As if I haven’t been writing this column seriously and professionally for six and a half goddamned years.) And, my favorite, wasn’t it OK to talk about my looks because I write about sex? (This comment was followed by links to several articles I’d published about technology and sex, as if writing about vibrators somehow meant I was “asking for it.”)

My friends said, “Ignore it.” They said, “Those guys are morons.” They said, “Let’s just read and write things in other places where men aren’t dicks.”

Yet slowly I began to feel the same way about their comments that I feel when a right-winger tells me that if I want to promote socialism, I should just move to another country. The problem is, I love my country. It fucking rocks. And I love Slashdot too. I don’t want to run away. This is my home, and I want to stay here and fight for justice. I want women to get excited by all the cool articles on Slashdot and not get driven away by a community that values them for their bodies instead of their thoughts.

So I went back and began rereading the comments on Slashdot about my article. At least half of them were written by outraged readers who asked why my looks were relevant. A woman had posted about how this kind of treatment was exactly why so few women are in the tech industry. It wasn’t a solid wall of sexism — there was a debate going on. And for every sexist dick, there was at least one feminist dick talking back to him. Even the guy who’d written the post sent me an e-mail apologizing for having used the word gorgeous, explaining that his English was really bad and he hadn’t intended to inspire the kinds of comments he had. …

The pushback can be ugly, especially if you comment about sexism under your own name. And some jerks will never change, but others do listen, and we won’t reach them if we don’t at least try.

See also Tiara.org on this issue. Original link, and pointer to Tiara.org post, via Feministing.

–Ann Bartow